5 Crucial Questions to Ask Your Doctor About Menopause—And What to Do If They Can't Help You

Have you ever walked into your doctor’s office hoping for real answers about menopause—only to be dismissed, rushed out, or told, “It’s just aging”?

• You are NOT alone.

• Too many doctors still lack proper menopause education.

• Women everywhere are left feeling unheard and unsupported.

But here’s the good news: You CAN take control of your menopause journey. It starts by asking the right questions.

Menopause isn't just about hot flashes and mood swings. It's a complex, life-changing transition that impacts everything from heart health to brain function.

Yet, too often, women who seek guidance from their doctors leave their appointments feeling dismissed, unheard, or worse—uninformed.

If that sounds familiar, you are not alone.

Many healthcare professionals still lack adequate menopause education, leaving countless women frustrated and searching for answers. But you don't have to accept that. You deserve informed, compassionate, and proactive care.

Here are five critical questions to ask your doctor about menopause—and what to do if they cannot address your concerns.

1. What Training or Experience Do You Have in Menopause Care?

Many doctors receive little to no formal menopause education. Asking this question can help you determine whether your provider is truly knowledgeable about menopause management or if you need to find someone more qualified.

If they dodge the question? Ask for a referral to a certified menopause specialist or search for one through organizations like The Menopause Society or The Menopause Experts Group.

2. What Are the Best Ways to Manage My Symptoms Based on My Medical History?

A generic "exercise and eat healthy" response isn't enough. Your doctor should consider your personal risk factors and tailor their response to your specific needs.

What to do if they only suggest antidepressants or dismiss symptoms:

Ask about all available options, including HRT, lifestyle interventions, supplements, and alternative therapies.

If they don't offer additional solutions, seek a second opinion.

3. Can You Explain the Risks and Benefits of HRT and Non-Hormonal Treatments?

Many doctors still fearmonger about HRT based on outdated studies. Others don't know enough about alternative options. This question ensures they provide accurate, research-based information rather than myths.

What to do if they dismiss HRT or seem uninformed:

• Mention The Menopause Society and ask for updated research-backed guidance.

• If they can't provide it, consider visiting The Menopause Society website to find an accredited provider in your area who specializes in menopause care.

4. How Can We Protect My Bone, Heart, and Brain Health During Menopause?

Menopause dramatically affects bone density, cardiovascular health, and cognitive function—yet many doctors overlook these aspects. Asking this question ensures they take your long-term health seriously.

What to do if they brush it off:

• Ask for bone density scans, cholesterol checks, and cognitive health strategies based on your age and risk factors, if they aren't already a part of your healthy aging plan.

• If they downplay the impact of menopause on long-term health, advocate for yourself or seek a second opinion.

5. Can We Create a Long-Term Plan for My Menopause Journey?

Too many doctors treat menopause as a temporary issue instead of a lifelong transition. This question helps you establish a comprehensive, proactive approach to managing your health for years to come.

What to do if they don't offer much guidance:

• Consider working with a certified menopause coach or specialist who focuses on long-term strategies for confidently managing menopause.

What to Do If Your Doctor Cannot Help You

If your doctor minimizes your concerns or suggests menopause is "not a big deal" or that "It'll pass," here's what you can do:

• Educate Yourself – Arm yourself with knowledge and connect with experts who prioritize your well-being.

• Advocate for Yourself – Bring notes, research, and insist on answers. You are not overreacting.

• Seek a Second Opinion – Find a certified menopause practitioner who respects and listens to you.

• Join a Supportive Community—You are not alone. Support groups and expert-led programs (like my Menopause Made Simple Experience) provide trusted guidance and empowerment to women worldwide.

   

The Takeaway

The takeaway I hope to inspire with this article is that menopause is YOUR journey, and you deserve care that acknowledges, validates, and supports you every step of the way.

If your doctor can't help or isn't correctly trained in menopause, find one who is.

In order to confidently advocate for your own care, you need to understand menopause and how it impacts your body—regardless of your doctor's level of expertise.

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Have you ever had a frustrating experience with a doctor about menopause? How did you handle it? Share in the comments—I'd love to hear your story!

I hope you got value from this post.

Until next time, stay safe and be well.

Tafiq Akhir | Mr. Menopause

Menopause & Healthy Aging Strategist & Educator

Menopause Specialist of the Year